Office Party Etiquette
The good news: you have a job and are lucky enough to be going to an office party this year. In fact, fully 90% of employees will take part in a holiday celebration with colleagues or clients, an encouraging sign that maybe, just maybe, the economy really is looking brighter. And after a long year of hard work, it’s time to kick up your heels, blow off some steam and party like it’s 2012, right? Ah, no. The office party, despite the food, libations and decorations, is a time when professionalism (or the lack thereof) is most noticed. In order to avoid being the topic of conversation until next year’s party, it is time to revisit our holiday party etiquette guidelines.
- Respond to the invitation promptly, and go if you have accepted. Your host is planning for refreshments, entertainment and possibly staffing needs based upon the number of people expected. To cancel at the last minute (except in the case of an emergency) or to skip the party entirely is extremely inconsiderate. Remember, “no-shows” are noticed.
- If you are invited with a guest, you may certainly bring one, but do not otherwise ask to do so. And remember, your guest’s behavior and dress will reflect upon you. A pre-party briefing with your guest about who’s who and what you hope to accomplish is time well-spent. Above all, no PDA’s!
- Dress appropriately. If you’re not sure what to wear, ask the host. When in doubt, it is better to dress more conservatively than less. Leave the risqué attire and “funny” tie for a non-business audience.
- Say “hello” to the host and to other senior level persons, but do not involve them in lengthy conversations, as it is their job to circulate among all of the guests. Especially do not use the office party as an opportunity to air grievances, ask for a raise, or gossip. And no matter how good an idea it seems at the time, flirting with the boss, employees or the spouses of others is not a good career strategy.
- Circulate and introduce yourself and your guest to others. This is a once-a-year opportunity to talk with those you may not see on a daily basis, so take full advantage of it. But keep in mind the office party is not the time to discuss controversial matters. Tried and true topics, e.g., weather, sports, holiday plans, etc. are appropriate. Religion, politics and other weighty topics are not.
- Help yourself to refreshments, but do not overdo it. And be very careful about the consumption of alcohol. The words and actions of someone under the influence will be remembered, perhaps forever, and it is just not worth the risk. It is perfectly acceptable and festive (and safer all around) to have non-alcoholic beverages.
- Be an enthusiastic and participative guest. If there is dancing, singing or other activities, join in, and encourage others to do so as well. Your host is hoping that the party will be enjoyable for everyone and will be appreciative of your attitude. But do recognize that it is not your job to be the “life of the party” no matter how much of a snooze-fest you think it is.
- Try not to be the first or last to leave. Leaving earlier than most may give others the impression that the party is over, encouraging an earlier end to the party than the host had planned. Leaving last, especially if the host is waiting for you, is not advised either. Remember to “quit while you’re ahead”. Give your host no reason to re-think his impression that you are the perfect party guest and employee!
- Be sure to thank the host and follow-up the next day with a brief handwritten note or at least an email. You will be remembered as a polite and gracious guest, and since so few do this, a standout in the ranks.
